The Crazy Things That People Say...

I know that most people mean well when they ask us questions about our adoption and would never knowingly ask embarrassing or intrusive questions.

I'm at the point where I don't bring up our adoption to people who do not know we are adopting because of a couple of reasons: 1. we are currently facing a very long wait--we are seven months into a possible two year or longer wait and 2. it opens the dialogue for people to say pretty much whatever pops into their head at that moment when they learn what we are doing.

I try to answer these type of questions as diplomatically as possible, BUT, I'm still new at this and sometimes the questions just take me back a little bit and my response isn't as smooth as I hope it can be.

I just hope that people learn to think about the questions that they are asking and to ask themselves if it is an appropriate question--why do they need to know? Are they planning on adopting or are they just curious? How would they feel if I asked them that same question about their family? Or their finances? Or why they made the choices that they made for their family???

Last night I was asked a question from one of my sisters friends. I tried to respond to the question by turning it back around to him about his family and I didn't do a very good job of it...I made him feel very uncomfortable and that is not what I was trying to do...I think that he realized that it was an inappropriate question to ask.

I know that with our international adoption that our family will be faced with all kinds of questions...good and bad...and there will be more and more questions once we get our dear daughter home and that is just going to be how it is.

My hope is that once our girl is home that people truly think about what they say before they say it...especially in front of our daughter.